No one is defined by their worst moments.  To understand a person you have to walk with them for many years.  Gayle Haggard knew botox the real Ted before she knew about the fomenting torment of his soul.  She just did not know his darkest parts. We are all adept bmi calculator at hiding those bits of ourselves which are least appealing. The truth about Ted Haggard was seen in his day to day pastoring and leading of a congregation that grew to some 14,000 people. When I think of Ted I remember the guy who had time for a fellow pastor when he had thousands, literally thousands of breast enlargement people who could have said they needed him. So to me he is my friend, even though he may not even remember meeting with my wife and I in May of 2000 to counsel us about our future in ministry.